Look at 3 ways to find where your trauma came from.
1.Your parents.
Your parents are most likely where your trauma stems from. Your parents are the ones who influence us the most especially in early childhood. Most of the time are parents are grossly unqualified to raise children. This is where kids get neglected, physically abused or sexually abused. Though most of the time it is hard to identify the type of the abuse because we protect our parents. Consider which unqualified parenting style best matches with yours. Most common with undisciplined adults is the permissive parent. The permissive parent always takes the easiest route in order to not upset their children. This can range from your parent always saying yes to whatever item you want or all the way to letting you play up until morning. The permissive parent has their own reasons they became permissive. One of the many reasons permissive parents are formed is because of absent. abandon, or neglectful parental figures in their life. This raises the child into the permissive parent they are today which affects your discipline, self esteem, and willpower. A permissive parent will often not see where the child is located most of the time or who is the friends of the child.
2.Molestation.
Molestation is very hard to process and is often hidden under the rug by the victim. Molestation is most likely to occur when the victim is at his or her most vulnerable stage which is a child or adolescence. Many victims feel they are to blamed especially when it happens in the childhood. This may push the child into adulthood to reject sex with future partners or become promiscuous to reclaim the power they lost at childhood. Children who have been molested at a young age exhibit signs of chronic lying, fear of a particular race and face, fear of touch, clinginess, and showing knowledge of sexual behavior before puberty. Children who have been molested most of the time hide away from the tragic event because they are ashamed and feel helpless from the molestation. The only way they can come out with the issue is if they trust someone to death. Most of the time it is their closest friend that they confess or a romantical partner. The issue most of the time remains unaddressed because the victim often tells the partner that they are not ready for the issue to be addressed. Most partners often go the wrong way to help the victim and take pride in trying to solve their issue. Partners of close friends should approach the conversation from a place of concern and care and if they really want to help, they should make correlations from their trauma to their adulthood to help them realize that it has caused some issues not addressing the problem. An example would be being molested at a young age and then in adulthood you feel very insecure and prone to people pleasing. This comes from shame and self hatred you have for getting molested.
3.Early childhood trauma
Early childhood trauma normally age ranges from 5-10. These traumas come from exposure to dangers or frightening experiences for the first time. Since the brain has not registered this danger as subjective it immediately spikes fear and sends adrenaline for a fight or flight reaction. An example would be your first time flying and then suddenly the plain starts shaking violently and people start to panic. Depending if you already had the experience of regularly flying in airplanes your brain will associate flying to danger so every time you fly you would have an emotional distress sending from your brain that says this action puts your life in danger panic as you did last time so we can survive. As a regular flyer your brain would not react this way because it could tell that it was just a one time experience out of 100. This is why early childhood is the most susceptible to get traumatized because the brain has no previous or enough experiences of the event.