Apology to my sister

I want to start off by saying I am sorry. The way we used to rough house was not okay and would eventually turn into something more extreme given the certain circumstances. I am sorry that I punched you in the shoulder. I didn't want to apologize for years because it would have affected my pride. Just like you we are all prideful in this family. Mommy and especially Papi are prideful about the things they have and are. An example would be Papi saying I am the father and you listen to what I have to say. No questions asked or another one, you don't pay the bills so you don't control what I do. Which is fair but he doesn't even like us talking about it. He is ashamed when we find him with alcohol so he hides it. The way we went about his alcohol addiction only made him shy away from drinking in front of us and made him only more distant in order to protect his pride. Mami on the other hand is prideful about the things she has and gets extremely upset if we break something by accident or if we comment on something we don't like about her furniture buying choices. She is also prideful on her appearance and will often criticize us and others on our flaws. She might do this because she is trying to fill in the empty feeling she has in her heart from her traumatic childhood. The same could be said with Papi. He is filling in the void he has in his heart from being put down as a child and abused. Both of our parents were abused and Mami had the worst of it. This is why we think Mami is crazy but when we look back at her childhood most of these things start to make sense on the way she acts. I believe there is nothing wrong with her only that she had a really messed up upbringing and her brain was psychologically adjusted to that upbringing regardless of new territory. That's where we come in. We were both products of our prideful family and so we could not learn humility. We are often boastful, arrogant, and full of ourselves on every little achievement we could grasp. This in turn is a good and bad thing. We strive to be the best so our prides are satisfied but at the same time we have no room for growth outside our pride. We are likely not to forgive one or another unless one of us crushes our own pride in order to do so. Which causes resentment and grudges we hold onto each other. An example would be arguing politics specifically abortion. I presented my arguments you presented yours and we could not find an even ground. What did we do? We pulled away from each other because we could not find a middle ground and associated each other with Trumpists or Liberals therefore being pinned against each other our whole life. We are brother and sister and it took reading a book to finally understand that. At that moment we could have just said I agree to disagree but again it would our pride which we are not accustomed to do so. Our problem in our family is pride and we wont relinquish it until we are aware where it came from and the divide it has caused.